Levels of Listening
By observing your body language and specific questions, people will sense you are paying attention to them.
By expressing empathy, people will sense you care about them. Empathy is deeper than having sympathy or pity for someone. It's understanding what they're saying from their point of view and "stepping into their shoes" as the saying goes.
By repeating back statements people make, they will know you're intently paying attention. During this phase, learn to read "between the lines" of your conversation with them.
Be sensitive to share your story and insight as God moves you to speak.
Wisdom in Life
Proverbs 4:7 says this, "The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding." Wisdom is incredibly valuable. Proverbs 16:16 says, "How much better to get wisdom than gold, to get insight rather than silver!"
Wisdom is defined by many as "the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment". This is a good definition, but the Bible goes a step further. Proverbs 9:10 says "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding." Biblical wisdom is understanding God and right living.
What does wisdom look like? How are knowledge and wisdom different? "Wisdom must include a sensitive, mature judgment or discernment of how the fear of the Lord should work itself out in all the circumstances not specifically dealt with in the Bible." Wisdom is applying what you know to a situation. It's understanding whether you should keep your job or go elsewhere. It's understanding relationships, how to handle the friend who doesn't act like a friend. It's understanding spiritual problems and knowing what to do about them. It's understanding life.
So I challenge you, wherever you are at in life, get wisdom and get understanding.